Saturday, May 3, 2014

Milestone: One toe over the line (6WS)

We all have 'em:  first time someone calls you 'sir' or 'ma'am" in a store,  turning 21,  turning a decade over,  your driver's license,  retirement, medicare,  the first time somebody asks if you'd like the senior discount, and later on, just assumes.  ow.

Today another first:   in the grocery store the very young (maybe 13) clerk looked at my mounded cart full of stuff and said,  "ma'am, would you like help with that out to the car?"

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  1. Yes--I am now a "Ma'am" more often than not. :-)

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  2. A while back, during one of my more incapacitated periods, I had to buy a cane at the pharmacy. The chipper young chippy behind the counter chirped, "And how are we doing today, Sir?" I was an aging man, buying a cane. I wanted to smack her up side the head with it.

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  3. I admire your self control. Truly.
    The next step in this "may we help you totter out to the car" scenario is when they dont ask, they just assume you need help, whether you want it or not. /frowny face here/

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  4. This is akin to my helpful neighbors who try to wrest my groceries from me as I get out of the car and proceed with perfect balance to the house! I had to get firm with them about this.

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  5. I have been called ma'am since I was about 15... So far I have not been offered the senior discounts, which is lucky for them because I won't be able to stop the not nice words that fly out of my mouth!

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    1. Just wait until you really do need help, like me. Then we are so grateful for the proffered arm.

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  6. I used to just smile and shake my head. its hard on the asker, too. When people are in that "maybe maybe not" area and the boss has said, ask, its really difficult to know what to say at that point. When I would see a clerk hesitating i'd just laugh and say, "no old lady discount, I'll let you know when Im ready" and that took it out of their hands for a bit. And the discounts in many places start at 50! (now THAT's obscene...)

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    1. Wow, both my children are over 50. That's worrying...

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  7. boud, i hear you clearly, lol. Or the helpful fella in the next car who rushes over to help you lift that heavy bag of four bread loaves, and manages to crush all the eggs, turn the bread into pita, and break three jars of jam. sigh.

    Ive learned, if someone obviously older appears to be having problems, ask first. If they can drive, they can usualy handle the groceries.

    My mother at 85 said, you know, I still feel 18 inside. And so do I. The outsides may be a bit wrinkly and er saggy here and there, but inside its still new. So its about attitude, more than anything else. (come to my house and ill let you play with my Legos, I still have em)

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  8. I was diagnosed with MS at 35. It is one of those invisible diseases. I sometimes WISH I could have people ask me if I need help, because it rarely looks like I have a problem.
    And when I got on the elevator with older people who couldn't walk up/down stairs easily, one of the older people pushed ahead of me as if I don't belong on there.

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  9. i get that, mlissabeth. you cant go around with a badge proclaiming that you could use a hand now and then, and sometimes we old guys (ahem) forget that young does not always equal healthy.
    and yeah, older people can be rude too, but stop and think: you dont become rude, just because youre a certain age, rude is sorta built in, isnt it. Its what you were taught as a kid, or picked up on, and no one ever said 'no you're not entitled to behave that way." Just tell yourself, you're better than they are. =)

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  10. I always answer.. naw my wife will get it.

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