Saturday, February 19, 2011

Thought for the Day

If we're always protecting our kids from danger, real or imagined, if we're always shielding them from bullies and slings n arrows,  and water pistols that look like guns, from violence and poverty and strangers, how will they ever learn how to  handle themselves as adults?

How do they learn to distinguish real danger or violence or threats from the pretend kind?  Im not saying we have to throw them out into traffic to see if they can survive, only give them the chance to make their own choices now, when the choices are still small, and their own mistakes NOW, when the mistakes are (to our eyes) minor, and know that they need to find their own levels of fear and comfort.  

I dunno. It's a jungle out there,  and we won't always be around to navigate it for them.  


  1. Our children need to be protected from some of those things, but the things we were not protected from didnt seem to have an impact on me. Bullying did impact me and it needs to be stopped which will probably never happen. Remember how we used to buy candy cigarettes, G.I Joe, toy soldiers, toy guns, toy knives and toy swords?? I didn't turn out to be a killer. It's a thin line between necessary protection and over protection. I hate it when the govt passes laws to protect me from belts.

  2. I think every kid in the world has a bully in his background, and how we deal with them then says a lot about the way we will handle such things when we grow up. Having a parent intervene at the slightest hint of bullying, and we never learn if we can handle it ourselves.
    Every kid needs to be a little scared now and then, to find out just what they got inside them for courage.

    a few weeks ago an outraged parent wrote to our local paper to protest the 'level of violence' in the city. She said she and her husband and two young children happened to be passing a local bar and witnessed a fight that had flowed out onto the street. she was stunned and horrified that her two kids had seen this, as she and her husband apparently made efforts to shield the kids from any sort of violence like this. Im thinking, did she let them see Lord of the Rings? Does she ban dvds? Even Babe, a gentle movie about a pig, has violence...
    I suspect the kids thought this was pretty neat, a real fight, oh boy, and had the sense to not tell mom how cool it was. *g*